One of the best quotes I have ever heard is that we are human because of relationships. I literally paused to think it through and I tried to decipher and elucidate this thought in my mind and came to my own deductions.
From before we are born, we have to be formed by a connection between opposite sexes and we are then formed and come into existence. We are at the core of our beings a product of a relationship whether permanent or temporary. At a point in time two people came together and whether intentionally or unintentionally, you were living proof of their relationship. In fact someone once said, “We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men; and among those fibers, as sympathetic threads, our actions run as causes, and they come back to us as effects.” ― Herman Melville
I know you are waiting for me to make a point but here it is.
There is no way you could exist without a relationship and you can’t live without them. That is why when a person commits a crime they are incarcerated, which is the same as being detained. They are denied the ability to relate with society until they have made good the commitment to become upstanding members of society and are then allowed to rejoin society. The mandatory detention is to remind them how important human contact is and that it is to be treasured; not to be undermined or mishandled. The pain of being out of relationship has the ability to make anyone lose his or her humanity.
In the past year, I have lost three people that were all dear to my heart. As I grieved over my loss, I started to learn that the pain of seeing someone die is not only about their physical person, it is the loss of the connection with that person. The sting of death is in the cutting short of the cord that you have been weaving with this person. We ‘remember’ this person because we celebrate the relationship we had with this person and the place they hold in our hearts.
Every aspect of life is about living in communion with one another and that communion is community. At every turn we have to be mindful of those that are around us and not miss the opportunity to create a new beginning or simply to be the turning point for one another. To live means connection and connections are part of living.