In my previous blog I told you about our birthday celebrations which we had annually as a group of close friends. In 2017 we had our usual celebrations for everybody and when it came to September, it was our youngest friend’s birthday but we couldn’t celebrate her on her birthday because many of us were unavailable and she wasn’t feeling well health-wise so we decided to postpone the celebration. However the postponement took much longer than we had expected. So towards the end of October we decided to fix a date when we could celebrate her.
On that day we booked a table at one of the fancy restaurants in Kampala where we would have dinner that evening. That particular friend was still not feeling well that day but we forced her to come because we didn’t want it to spill to November. She was not badly off after all; she was just under the weather due to an intruding cold.
That particular dinner was different from the usual dinners that we had previously. This time everybody was so happy and we wear in jubilation mode. Its not like we were never happy on the previous dinners but there was something different about this one. When we got to the restaurant, we were all very excited to see each other. It was as if we had not seen each other in years. We hugged and laughed and didn’t even complain about the usual latecomers. Even the birthday girl was very happy despite the fact that she was not feeling well. It was so beautiful. The restaurant complimented our mood because it was warm and serene. It was a perfect choice for a perfect evening.
We ordered our food and a bottle of wine. Meanwhile we had conversation about different things and we laughed a lot. Our food finally came and it was as good as the evening was. We laughed a lot about anything and everything as we ate. I smile even as I write about it reminiscing how beautiful it was.
Usually, after we have dinners of a similar nature, we have deep conversations that most of the time turn into an argument where one or two people end up crying either because they were not feeling heard or they were genuinely hurt. However, this dinner ended differently. One person decided give a small speech about the birthday girl. That is when all the magic begun. She said so many nice things, not only celebrating the birthday girl but also celebrating all of us. Then everyone else followed suit, speaking vulnerably, reminding us of the times we have been there for each other. It was so emotional, people cried, laughed, hugged and apologized to each other. Almost everyone cried that evening.
The waiter came to tell us that the restaurant was about to close and we should be winding up. We did not want to hear any of that. Instead we ordered another bottle of wine and a few B52s.
We then started to speak about the birthday girl. We poured out our hearts about the way we felt about her. No one reserved anything that night. We went all out pouring out our hearts out to her; how we genuinely felt about her and how much we all loved her even with her “Lugezigezi.” And then finally, we prayed. Usually we ask our friend Shane to pray but this time everyone prayed. We spoke blessings and life to our friend and her young family; we spoke perfect health to her. Generally we blessed her, her marriage and her baby. She kept saying in her ever so sweet voice “Amen Thank you, thank you.” After refusing the restaurant to rush us, and when we were finally done, we departed for our respective homes.
That is the one birthday celebration we talked about for a long time. We would laugh about how we cried for nothing. We would laugh about the way sung and turned every word into a song that night. The memories about that particular dinner are still so warm and pleasant. Little did we know it was the last birthday we were celebrating with her alive.
Exactly two months later, our friend Katsy breathed her last. It was then that we understood why the day we celebrated her birthday was different. God works in mysterious ways, sometimes we don’t understand the things of God and they only make sense much later. It was after she died that we realized that that was her LAST SUPPER!